What are you
thinking?!
Has a child’s challenging behavior ever left you feeling
angry, embarrassed, hopeless, powerless, or disappointed in the
child or yourself? The child very likely feels much the same
way, regardless of any bravado he might show.
When I think, 'This child is making me miserable!' – it
is quite easy to act in ways that add to the child’s own
misery. On the other hand, if I set my mind to thinking, 'This
is so hard, I know I will learn something from this child!' – the
child is more likely to learn, too.
The questions we ask also make a difference:
In the words of Dr.
Ross Green, instead of asking,
‘What’s it going to take to motivate this kid to behave differently?’
Ask
‘Why is this so hard for this child? What’s getting in his way? How
can I help?’”
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